When a Rich N*gga Wants ya - The Sheneka Adams Situation

First and foremost, this post is not to shade or disrespect Shaneeka Adams and Jacob's relationship. If anything I sympathise with her situation prior to meeting him and I adore how in love they are right now. Watching the world cup we have seen plenty of "Shenekas", her's is just the easiest to break down. Enjoy, RT&repost xx
  
**FYI RUGLY is short for rich ugly guy**

Exhibit A: Your typical 'captain save a hoe'/sugar daddy/RUGLY is demonstrated above.

The Shankeeka Adama's Situation is something that I came up with when she was the topic of conversation with a friend. Once again no shade but it's the 'captain save a hoe' or sugar daddy story that a lot of girls in the UK see happen with these US video models and now a lot of WAG's too. They get in a relationship with a lowkey rich guy and post endless pics on holiday in exotic locations 'alone' or of gifts he's bought them but never reveal who they are from. What a lot of people don't know is that nearly all the photoshoots that girls like Sheneka, Miracle and Lira do are free. They do them in the hope it will get them more exposure and maybe a long term career in TV or something similar. They strip, escort and do club appearances to make money, hence why Miracle is always in a new city. If they are escorts many of their clients are somewhat unattractive usually older man [refer to exhibit's A above]. If he is super rich then he may become a regular client and eventually catch feelings. When he does, he often tells her he wants to take her away from the life she is living sort of like the movie Pretty Woman, this is when he becomes her sugar daddy and she is one step closer to stardom as she uses his money and connections to get her places. When she gets famous she denies ever having sex with him for money. Five years later she either leaves him for a rich rapper/sports player now she's an A-Lister or they get engaged because he's been her 'daddy', not to mention that he took her from projects to the hollywood hills. I have seen similar situations with a few girls I know and they are happier than ever.

Before I begin here is some background on Sheneka and Jacob's relationship. Jacob is a jack of all trades but master of none. He is supposedly an events planner and promoter, was in the music industry during the 90's/2000's and has a number of businesses including a "modelling" agency. Now I don't want to go too deep into this but by the looks of things he ran some type of escorting agency and someone referred Sheneka to him. However this version of events is disgustingly messy, google him yourself, so I'll just go along with Sheneka's story. They met through a mutual friend and hit it off. This quote is taken from Sheneka's blog, Simply Sheneka, I'll post the link at the end of this post 'Now I’m not going to lie to you, I did go into this relationship with the “I’m just gonna use this nigga for his money attitude".....when I got to his house we hung out, went to the mall, ate etc…the normal things you do when you met someone for the first time I guess lol.' Her repeated use of 'lol's throughout the post seem to be in reference to sex but of course she wouldn't want to add to her already damaged image now would she. After this, she ran back to her abusive boyfriend. Strangely she told Jacob, he accepted and let her go. Honestly, I'm surprised Jacob took her back but after hearing he spent money on her she must have given his something he liked, lol indeed. Anyway she was stranded and broke, called Jacob, not her mum lol again, and he paid for her to go back to Atlanta. They fell madly in love and have been inseparable ever since. Now my question to you is do you think she would have even called him for help if he was a sweet older unattractive man with no money? Me neither.

Sheneka and Jacob on their trip to Disney Land

I have spoken to the tall, short, rich, broke, senseless, gang gang guy, ex/soon to be convict so I have had my fair share of experiences but only ever been in what I would consider one real relationship. Some of my girls told me I was too nice for him, but I thought he was cute and he was really tall, my mum says short men bring problems so 6'2ft and over only. He annoyed me to begin with but eventually he made me so happy. He was also very well dressed so I assumed he had the cash to match but...anyway. Whenever he messed up or upset me I thought about calling this RUGLY that had liked me for about two years but his face was a real problem. This guy was so ride or die for me, he even said he would stab someone in the neck for me that's how much he cared, weirdo yes I know. But I felt bad trying to pursue a relationship with him just because he was rich. Every time he wanted a kiss I just couldn't bring myself to do it. He offered me countless gifts and sums of money but his face was a -1/10, I just couldn't do it. I have found this to be the case for many girls. They meet an ugly guy who is loaded, the money sways them so they are nice to him but save his number as taxi or buffet because that's all he's good for. Eventually she see's his heart and how much effort he is willing to put in but because he is unattractive they are hesitant to get into a relationship. BUT, you're not the only one trying to be the only one! Have you ever noticed how when you think the nail shop or salon will be quiet on a week day you get there and it's packed? This is because everyone thought the same thing as you. It's the same with RUGLY's. We all have those days were we wish we had a rich man to take care of everything or we just want some attention so we contact the RUGLY that wanted us a while ago right? But so do the six other girls he moved to after you rejected him. Now he is spoilt for choice and that's your fault for being shallow. In life remember, no matter what it is, when there is money involved there is plenty of competition so be ready.

Footballer Mamadou Sakho and wife Mazda Magui

Recently we have seen a rise in the number of escorts or cam girls as it has become the easiest way for girls to make large sums of money with 100% profit. Escorting has been around for years and it has been said that being paid for sex is one of the oldest professions. I have a friend who knew a girl that was an escort. She had done it for a number of years and made very good money. Eventually she met a regular client who would take her on business trips with him occasionally. One of these trips happened to be in America where they both confessed their love for each other, he then proposed to her and I assume they are now happily married . His reason for doing so was that he had not only fallen for her but he wanted her to live a better life so he was willing to take care of all her needs. This is what we call a 'captin save a hoe' she has had a messy past, this may not entirely be her fault and he takes it upon himself to rectify things for her. I know a lot of guys reading this are saying they could or would never do such a thing but you really cannot help who you fall for. 

I had my own experience trying to look for a sugar daddy at 18. I was tried of my evening shifts in primark and I wanted someone to take care of all my expenses, God knows what expenses I had back then. I searched the internet looking for a sugar daddy, most sites had a joning fee or you had to post naked pics so I resorted to bbpins.com lol yes I am ashamed to say. Eventually I found a guy called SugarDaddy4U who's description was something like 'looking for a girl to spoil' I thought I had hit the jackpot. I added him, we started talking he was a really nice guy around 30 years old. I don't remember much of our conversations but he was having some construction work done on his country house so he was away from his house in London, having two houses was enough to convince me he had real money. He said he would pay for a taxi from my house to his the day we were supposed to meet. To be fair I thought I would just give him my acc number and sort code then it was done, but he expected something in return. How naive was I!? He said he would get me anything I wanted obviously I had a list as long as my arm already. He then I asked me what I would do for him, so I asked him what he wanted. He told me he wanted me to humiliated him and talk down to him, I found this incredibly strange at the time as I didn't know men like that kind of stuff during sex. But what he told me next changed everything, he wanted me to 'rip him apart' those  words have never left me. I had no idea what anal sex was or why a man would even want it. But yeah I was so scared, I blocked him and never looked for a sugar daddy ever again. 

Someone else who ended up in a Sheneka Situation was Porsha from Real Housewives Of Atlanta but unlike these other Shenekas' she was the stay at home Sheneka. Being the stay at home Sheneka is never wise. Kordell wasn't necessarily unattractive but he was rich with a bad attitude. One episode she admitted that the plan was to help him build his career and reputation as a good family man whilst she stayed home and was a trophy wife. Throughout the show we saw her burn breakfast countless times and do nothing but shop so the sex must have been amazing #justsaying. However, like in my balancing acts post all relationships require give and take. If he is financing you and putting a roof over your head amongst other things then you need to be doing a lot more than having sex every night to keep your place in his life. Or like these video girls have your own money on the side because bad attitude 'captain save a hoe's can turn around and take it all from in a second and leave you back at square one.

Porsha and Kordell during in happier times

So, the moral of this story is that you never know who you'll fall in love with despite you preferences absolutely anyone has the capability to make you happy. I always say you will encounter so many frogs before you meet your prince, but don't catch something nasty kissing them all in the hope of finding true love. I believe the right man will show you more love than you show him whether it be through his actions or finances, never take advantage of this. On the contrary, it is safe to say money makes the world go round, if you have enough of it then you can have any woman who walks this earth. But, flaunting your cash will most definitely attract a 'Sheneka' whether she be the opportunist, good girl with baggage or the wonnabe trophy wife a Sheneka will always be lurking which isn't always a bad thing. Even a women with an undesirable past is wanted by someone and that someone might be you so boys don't be so quick to fall for a pretty face if you aren't prepared to deal with the baggage that may come along with it. And ladies, you never know the ugliest frog of them all might just be the perfect one for you x


Link to Sheneka Adams Blog Post: http://simplysheneka.com/2013/05/06/a-love-story/