Original Date Posted: Feb 2013
Many people boast about their skills when it comes to oral sex, but most of the time it turns out they're the only one blowing their own trumpet (no pun intended). I've heard countless times from so many male friends that girls always claim that they give amazing head, but when it comes down to it they have no idea what their doing or she's too shy. Most recently I heard that females do it dry and swallow any saliva that may form whilst doing it. Quick question, do you or your partner enjoy sex when you dry up and there's no lube, no. So who wants dry head?? erm no-one (!) You couldn't leave it dry even if you tried to be honest. Worse than this unfortunately are the guys that say they love going down on a girl, but are very much a let down. Just because you say it doesn't mean you're any good! But as you've probably gathered today's topic is mastering the art of fellatio and cunnilingus. This post will be split in to two so you pick one or read both.
Cunnilingus is the formal name for eating/licking out, a practice which is somewhat taboo in the UK but everyone else around the world seems to love doing it. Yes some vagina's do smell and may look a bit funny but a lot of your boxers don't smell too fresh either but you don't hear her complaining. I've only ever met two females who didn't enjoy receiving oral sex. I find this incredibly surprising a most women only cum from clitoral stimulation so he must of been doing something wrong! The most common thing guys get wrong when preforming oral is licking the hood of her clit rather than the clit itself. As explained in my previous post 'The M Word' the hood is something like a foreskin as it is there to protect the clitoris and stop it from getting overly aroused by the smallest amount of friction. The whole point of you have sex is to make her orgasm so cause as much friction as possible! Pull it back and get right in there!!!
If she tells you to suck it when your licking it then listen to her. She knows her body better than you ever will. Let her guide you around her body. As a man its understandable that you will naturally want to take the lead, but you'll feel so much more accomplished when you see her legs shaking uncontrollably because you listened. Suffocation is almost inevitable if she's sitting on your face, but if she's on her back with you in between her thighs and she pulls your head closer to her, don't fight it. Unless of course you cannot breath then let her know. She will be in her element so don't kill the mood, she might just be getting to that all important climax. If you need to stop for a while then finger her or rub her clit to keep the stimulation going. When she's wet enough and her body calls for it fingers are always a good idea, it is also a sort of preparation for penetration. If this is the first time you've fingered her then your safest option is to start of with one, some people prefer two but again don't be scared to try your getting to know her body. Don't finger her too hard or too fast, I suggest you go deep but keep it at a moderate speed. As mentioned before, no-one likes dry sex, unless you have a fetish for it, But please do remember to make sure she is wet before you insert anything in her. NEVER EVER insert anything into a dry vagina, the pain is unbearable. Also NO TEETH! Having your clit bitten can be compared to her biting you when its her turn to return the favour. However you can graze your teeth over her hood very very lightly, but no biting unless she requests it.
With oral sex, I always say the best lube is natural lube, spit. Some women suffer slight irritation when using flavoured lubes, especially if they end up inside her so invest in a natural lube such as KY jelly or Durex Play Aloe Vera, these can be purchased in your local drug store or pharmacist. I wouldn't recommend baby oil as a lube either as it can dry her out again causing irritation inside her and lead to chaffing )torn skin), thrush and itching. If you use baby oil and she hasn't suffered from any of this then keep using it, all information given is from research and personal experience. Something that can't be used as lube but may work to mask the taste is food. Rather than boring old chocolate body paint, why not try ice cubes, whipped cream, yoghurt ice cream or even fruit laid across her body all the way down till you reach between her legs, she'll get aroused as you tease her by working down her body slowly before you finally go in for the kill. If you use cold foods such as ice cream temperature will awaken her senses whilst you get to eat. Not to mention that she won't mind kissing you afterwards because your breath will smell nice.
Tongue fucking is something that I personally am against as blowing air in to a woman's vagina can supposedly cause shock and kill her. This and other interesting facts about sex can be found in "She Comes First" written by clinical sexologist Ian Kerner, Ph.D. I it also does nothing at all for many woman, many just fake it because the women in porn do, but that's a different story for a different day. I'd prefer fingers if anything but this shouldn't stop you from trying it.
Through reading other blogs and speaking to other women getting eaten out is the first time they have a proper orgasm other than masturbation. Having a wet face probably isn't the most desirable feeling in the world but don't let her know she's just experienced a whirl wind of emotions and adrenaline the last thing she needs to hear is you complaining. If anything you should be preparing her body for sex by kissing softly on her legs, particularly in-between her thighs then the rest of her body. Considering this as foreplay, you may even do it after sex just to make sure she really does cum.
If you don't eat her good then the next man will so put your all into it and she'll be more than likely to return the favour...
top tips
*slow and steady wins the race, don't rush it
*listen to her body, if she responds to something keep doing it
*follow her lead
*excite and confuse her body
*keep her aroused continually
*always have you fingers ready
*think outside the box and maybe in the fridge
Part 2: The men's edition coming soon...
