Original date posted: 5th Feb 2013
Ok, ladies I'm going to jump right in at the deep end and talk about what many of you love to do but forbid yourselves from talking about...Masturbating! Yes I said the M word. I don't understand why so many woman are afraid or ashamed to admit they do it. I do understand that not everyone wants to disclose their sexual activities and desires with the world. We're not asking for in depth descriptions, just to allow yourself to feel confident sexually. In today's society sexuality is a big part of who you are, especially when in a relationship or looking for one, sexual knowledge and confidence is believed to be one of the most significant things that will keep the both of you happy. At the age of 21 I know a lot of females who love sex but don't know what really pleases them so embrace it! Its your vagina, pussy, minge, nooni, vajayjay and whatever other names exist for it.
First and foremost, knowing your body leads to GREAT sex. If you don't know what you like how will he or she know what to do? I'm not saying head down to your nearest Ann Summers, find the biggest dildo and hope for the best. Like many things in life start of small and slow then get bigger if you really want to. Having read a number of forumals and blogs a number of women house hold objects, please do not do this it could end terribly. Instead I recommend you start with your fingers. Many woman don't actually orgasm from penetrative sex so try clitoral stimulation.
Wet your fingers (use a bit of lube or spit on them) and rub gently in which ever direction feels good, you can rub it when dry but most women take longer to orgasm unless their clit is wet. This also teaches you the difference between the hood of your clit and the clitoris itself. The hood of your clit is similar to a foreskin as it covers it. However unlike a foreskin, which supposedly increases the sensation during sex, your hood is there to protect your clit from getting constantly aroused for basic stuff like just walking around. The clit is one of the most sensitive parts of the female body, with roughly 8,000 nerves. Although the hood and clit are very close they are two separate body parts so to get the most out of it you might want to pull back the hood and just play with your clit. If you' re tired of your fingers the you can push the boundaries and start with a vibrator. If it's your first then a bullet will do you just fine, the speed and vibration tempo do not vary on a bullet but it does the job, great things come in small packages, right!?
You can heighten your senses by playing with your nipples or switching between rubbing your clit and fingering yourself. Doing this can increase arousal as you will still have the sensation of your clit being played with as well as the pleasure of penetration too. In doing all of this, you will find yourself naturally getting wetter. Masturbation is also often the first time many women find out they can squirt. Like many people you may think you have wet yourself but that isn't the case at all. If you can then consider it a talent, not all women can squirt and men love it, just make sure you lay down a towel and have fresh bed sheets in your cupboard. Squirting is a sensation many women feel during penetrative sex, many women feel as if they need to use the toilet. If this is you DO NOT hold it in and if you let it out tell him to stop, squirting whilst still having sex can be extremely painful so let all out. Orgasms are healthy for your immune system, they keep you happy and have been scientifically proven to reduce your chances of catching a cold believe it or not.
I wasn't sure where to place porn in this post as it can teach you what to do with yourself but once your comfortable you can use it as a stimulus. YES for those of you who don't know women masturbate to porn too! There's so many common myths surrounding female masturbation I think it scares a lot of people out of doing it but I don't understand why it's something you can do discreetly in the comfort of your own home and no-one needs to know. But anyway back to porn. A lot of woman find it hard to become aroused from straight porn but are turned on by lesbian porn. Don't be alarmed, this doesn't mean you're gay. I personally find straight porn far too aggressive to turn me on Much of the time I'm more concerned of the welfare of the woman in the scene. Psychological studies have shown that straight and lesbian woman are aroused by the same things, I'm not sure if that has anything to do with it but whatever gets you off should be used.
To conclude, female masturbation may still be taboo, but I can assume you, you're not alone if you do it or want to try it.Getting to know your body will benefit you in every way. Learn and understand your limits, what turns you on and what you're willing to try to reach the next level of arousal. Best of all, when there's no-one to satisfy that urge you can take care of business yourself.
Feel free to give me your views on the M word and REPOST, thank you
xo
